My friend Jeanette died Sunday. This is very hard for me. Jeanette is the friend I talked about in this post. I found out about her death yesterday afternoon. She died because of a seizure. She died because no one could give her the help she needed. She died because someone coddled her instead of helping her. She needed medical help. She needed SSI and medicaid. She needed to realize she had a problem. I feel horrible because I could not help her. Her family could not help her. And then to make things worse the person who she was living with wrote this on her Facebook wall “No offence, but its really sad that it took Jeanette’s literal death to bring out all these nice warm feelings and loving concerns, I’d bet, she’d wish she would have love to have heard them all when she was alive. Poor thing was seriously depressed. She didn’t know where to go and was pushed out by almost everyone,Yeah she had her stubbornness, but her options were either to go to a shelter or 1200 miles away. May God have mercy on us for not helping to our ability. God knows who helped and he knows those who followed orders. May we never overlook another soul, ever again. Praise God she is in the hands of Jesus and she is free from this body of death. No more seizures, school bills, Identity theft, Ex-fiancee issues, uncertainty of friends or wondering where to go next. She’s with Jesus the Savior and redeemer who taught us how to love” He didn’t help her get the real help she needed and now he is blaming those who truly cared for her but were unable to help her. I am trying not to focus on all the drama of her last year, but it hard when someone posts something like that. So I want to remember the times and memories I had with Jeanette.
I met her in college, we went to Tennessee Temple University. She was one of the first people I met and very friendly. She was an education major and had a huge love for children. I don’t think we hung out all the much in college but we were floor mates the first year and I think we were in the same prayer group for a awhile.
After she graduated college she went and moved in with her Grandma Peach in Florida. Since I didn’t have anywhere to go, her Grandma let me stay with her too.I remember when we were living with her Grandma we took part in a talent show at First Baptist Zhills. We did a sign language presentation for the song “God so loved” by Jackie Valesquez. We had a lot of fun practicing that. The neighborhood behind her Grandma’s house would go all out for Christmas and we would always take walks to see that. Her parents and brother would come for Christmas and would go look at lights. We would sit in the back of her Grandmas truck and use the walkie talkies to talk to her parents in the front. It was fun!
Jeanette and I planned on getting an apartment in NY but that didn’t work out and we got an apartment in New Port Richey. The apartments we lived was called Mallory Square, it has since been renamed. We had an apple themed kitchen, and Jeanette always got the cutest accessories. She did her bedroom in a nature theme and her bathroom in butterflies. Oh, and she loved Tinkerbell and Peter Pan.
I remember our Christmases together most. Her parents came down for a few weeks every Christmas. Jeanette and I would always wear matching outfits. Her Dad would get us both stockings and we would open them together. I would make a ham or turkey and we would enjoy a fun day.
Jeanette and I went to Disney once together. It was a blast It my first real visit to the Mouse. It was a spur of the moment trip and it was at Christmas time so we got to see Epcot all dressed up!
Jeanette was my maid of honor at my wedding. She helped make my day so special. I am sad that she never found her Prince, but she was happy just having Jesus as her husband. She would have made a wonderful wife and mother before the seizures. She was even engaged to be married.
One of my last memories with Jeanette happened just 2 summers ago. We took a talking tour of Tampa. My husband came along so the 3 of use toured downtown Tampa. We ate lunch at Subway and took so many pictures. We ended the day cooling off at the “water park”!
I will miss you Jeanette and I am truly sorry the last few months were very rough on you, but you are in Jesus’ arms now. I love you and will always remember the good times the most.