Book Review: Growing up Social

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Book Author(s): Gary Chapman, Arlene Pellicane
Book Genre: Relationships/Parenting
Number of Pages: 233
Publisher: Northfield Publishing
ASIN: 978-0-8024-1123-5
My Rating:  4 /5 Stars

Book Summary

Growing Up Social: Raising Relational Kids in a Screen-Driven World is a book on how to raise kids is a world where there are screens everywhere.  There are 14 chapters, and a lot of resources in the back.  The resources in the back are:

  • Social Development by Ages and Stages
  • Quiz: Does Your Child Have Too Much Screen Time?
  • Resources at
  • Discussion Group Questions

My Thoughts

I have one child in high school and one in college,  to say I having many screens in my home is an understatement.   My husband is a children’s and youth pastor.  My full time job is with computers and my work from home part-time job is also with computers,  and then there is the blog.  MY LIFE IS SCREEN TIME.

Just in the last month, one of my daughter’s friend’s mother told her that she was not allowed to have any electronic devices, and if she did not comply to this rule she could leave the house.  Now keep in mind this girl is over the age of 18, when my husband heard this he said that is unreasonable.

Even with everything above I think that there is a middle ground and you can go to either side and cause harm.  I did like this book it was full of good information, but I thought maybe too much.  I know as a young mom trying to figure things out I would have not been able to retain all the information.  It was almost like two books in one.  The first part talked about A+ skills that children need to have, the second half was about screen time and the effect it could have on the children.  I liked how the last half talked about things like: shyness, the brain, security and other things, but it also gives ideas on how to change the negative effects.

[Tweet “If you want your child to think clearly during homework, then you need to take the distractions away #growingupsocial”]
My kids and I have bonded around the screen in our home.  We loved to cuddle on the couch and watch the newest Disney release on tape when the kids where younger, and now we have special shows that we drop everything for to watch together.  My kids and I are friends on Facebook and love to post things to one another’s timeline.  We do a lot around screens, but we have also made time for one another doing other things like going to the gym, doing Bible Study, shopping, taking pictures together and many other things.  I think it is important to keep a good place in the middle.  When we build these relationships it helps them feel close to me.

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I would recommend this book mostly to young families, just be prepared to just take it a chapter at a time.