Tips to Stop TTC taking the Romance Out of Sex

TTC Blogging Challenge Day 24: Has being TTC affected your sex life with your spouse?

I remember sometime last year when my Dh and I were really TTC and we were DTD  every other day like clockwork. After sometime we lost some of the romance and it turned crazy. One time we ended up laughing hysterically and feeling like 2 virgin teenagers because of the awkwardness of doing it too much. So over time I have developed some ways that I spice up the deed. Here are my top 3 Tips to Prevent TTC from taking the Romance Out of Sex.

First, let me give you some background on me. I was raised in a independent, fundamental baptist church. Most of my sex education came form there until I was much older so a lot of things seemed “dirty” to me. Now as I mature in my faith and my marriage, I am learning so much about sex and the function of sex as God intended. I don’t do this stuff all the time, but to spice up regular sex, it is fun.

3 Tips to Prevent TTC from taking the Romance Out of Sex

Tips to Prevent TTC from taking the Romance Out of Sex


1. LET GO. I always tended to hold myself back sexually. Maybe because of my weight I felt unsexy. Maybe because I was scared of what sounds I would make or how I would look. Now I don’t care. I am learning to enjoy sex. It is fun! I usually make sure I orgasm, though I rarely get it from straight intercourse, other foreplay is in the picture.

2. DANCE!! This is especially easy to do when you don’t have kids. Turn your living room into a strip club! Get a workout video with striptease moves (it is a great workout too) and just have fun. Your husband will like it no matter how horrible you think your performance is. Be confident- as that is what drives men wild anyways. Pick out an outfit where you can take if off slowly, one button at a time. Tease him.

3. PLAY it Up! Be the French maid, wear fuzzy handcuffs, or whatever else. Just have fun! Serve dinner wearing lingerie, wake him up happy, use a different room.

What are some ways you spice it up?

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Last Day of TTC Blogging Challenge

Day 30:
After a month of infertility talk, we need a distraction. Give us a link to one of your favorite non-infertility-sites, or tell us about your favorite distraction activity/book/feel-good movie.
My favorite non-fertility sites are Facebook , Swagbucks, and  Pinterest.  Speaking of Facebook, follow my blog on Facebook too!  I could spend hours on Pinterest pinning away. I actually make/do a lot of the pins I pin. I excited to show some of them on this blog in the future.
My favorite distraction/ obsession is my DH. I absolutely love spending time with him. We have such good times together. Everyday our relationship gets stronger and stronger. My second obsession is Disney. Anything Disney pleases me. I collect the large snowglobes, movies, art, blankets etc. My bathroom, kitchen, and living room are all Disney themed.  My third obsession is art: painting, sewing, jewelry making, scrapbooking, cake decorating, and gifts you can make.
My favorite book is the Bible, though I haven’t been that faithful lately reading it. I will get better as I am joining a Bible study/ water Zumba class soon.
My favorite feel good movies are The Devil Wears Prada, Cinderella, Tangled, The Princess Diaries, and Beauty and the Beast.
This Challenge was fun!  A big thank you to those that have started following my ramblings about trying to conceive with PCOS and hypothyroidism.  I feel your support in more ways than I can express on here.  I considered all of you friends and an accountability system.

TTC Blogging Challenge-Friendship

 0cd5893415a88858e5f0e97d7d0fa8deDay 29 of the TTC Blogging Challenge:
Tell us about a friendship you lost or a relationship that changed for the worse because of infertility.
I have not lost a friendship due to infertility; I have distanced myself from some friends though.
I have done non-discreet things like hidden a friend from my Facebook feed or just not talk to a friend as much.  I know I shouldn’t do it, but jealousy and depression sometimes takes over. I want a baby so bad. Seeing other people, especially people who I don’t think should have kids, really gets me upset.  I know it is wrong because that is not what God wants us to do as friends.  The Bible says, “A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.”  Proverbs 17:17  A loving friend doesn’t block those who have good news, but should rejoice with them.

                I know how it feels to be on the receiving end of such treatment. I had asked a certain friend to be my bridesmaid for my wedding. She said no because she was jealous of me for finding love. I was disappointed and hurt. I wanted her to be part of my special day. I am sure that is how women expecting are feeling. I  am going to try to do better.


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