Praying for a Submissive Spirit

I am a pretty independent person. I guess that happens when your childhood points you in a direction where you learn that you can’t trust others around you. Part of me always tries to protect myself and not give up control. Sadly, I kind of run things in my house. I don’t want it to be that way. Growing up in church I know submission is part of having a godly marriage. Submission means trusting not only in your husband, but having trust in God. That is the point of submission- giving God control of your life.

Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands. Ephesians 5:22-24

Giving up control is hard. Yet at the same time I think the stress is lessened because I am resting in the care of my husband and God. I need to feel secure. One of the longings discussed in Pulling Back the Shades is the longing to be protected by a man. That is part of the reason women flock to Christian Grey. He protects Anastasia by controlling everything that he can. He promises her that he will look out for her best interests. Continue Reading