A long time ago I heard a Christian speaker say, “Be thankful for dirty socks”. You see, her husband would come home everyday and take his shoes off at the front door and then leave a trail of socks as he made his way elsewhere in the house. It annoyed her. She nagged him. She tried to get him to stop. Then she realized, that if he was gone, she would probably miss even that annoying thing he did. My husband does annoying things. He leaves the light on everywhere. When he does dishes, you can expect tons of water to end up on the floor. He tries to save everything. I could go on.
My husband just completed his EMT certificate. In some cases, that can be a dangerous job. My husband is Diabetic. My husband drives on one of the craziest roads in Florida, US 19. His life is not promised to me until I die. He could die at any time. I love him so much and know that if he were gone, I would be devastated. I would miss his arms, his way he makes me laugh, and if I am honest with myself I would miss the “annoying” things that make him who he is.
With every lesson learned, a life application is to be applied. Sadly, when I heard that message awhile ago I didn’t fully realize the meaning. Now I do. Here are some things I am going to do that help me honor my husband and survive the “annoying” things he does.
- Tone down my nagging. I admit, I am bit of a nagging wife. I constantly nag at him to do something- shut the door, turn off the lights, put your laundry in the hamper, etc. He works full time and is still going to school (working on his paramedic degree next). I don’t get much time with him as it is, so I should make a good effort to make the time spent together positive. I am not saying I am not ever going to talk about the things that bother me, but I am sure more constructive ways can be found to get my point across. Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear. Ephesians 4:29 She speaks with wisdom,and faithful instruction is on her tongue. Proverbs 31:26
- Enjoy my role as a stay at home wife. Sometimes cleaning up after a husband is just part of the job. I need to do it cheerfully. Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for human masters, Colossians 3:23
- Take the focus off of me. When I complain about the little things that he does that annoy me. I am concentrating on me. I need to concentrate on him. I try not be a selfish person. My home is not MY home, it is OUR home. He is welcome to be himself, like I am welcome to be myself. I probably do more annoying things than he does.
- Pray for my husband. He doesn’t need my nagging. He needs my prayers. He is trying to balance going to school, working, church, being a husband, and taking care of his mom’s house.
So, what annoying things does your husband do?
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